I have a pan friend who is the only trans ally I know irl. Few months ago I decided to come out to her. However, I don’t know where to start.
I was alone with her several times recently, but I just fail to start a conversation every time.
She doesn’t seem to have any problem with being out to everyone, so it’s harder to have a serious conversation about my struggles. What should I do?
One way for me to get the push for this, is to tell them beforehand that i have something personal about myself I’d like to share with them as a close friend.
For example, i wanted to share something personal with a friend once, and i knew he’d take it very well and be supportive, but i was still super nervous to bring it up. So i texted him few days before i knew I’d see him saying something like “hey, when we meetup, I’d like to talk to you about something personal about me. It’s not bad, but it’s a face to face conversation, and it’s something I’d like to share with you :)”.
This way, i had no choice but to tell him when we met. In fact, he brought it up to me instead, making it so much easier to just “do it” like the others commented.