I’m scared of the process of having to potentially relearn how my body will want to have sex post-hrt. I’m 26 and I only just recently have felt very sexually free and confident after a few negative experiences in the past. I’m scared that my skills and interests won’t apply and I’ll have to start over. What can you tell me about the trans sexual experience during your hrt journey but not bottom surgery related.

Also because of health reasons I’m not a big anal gal.

Cross posting this on Reddit cause they sadly weren’t helpful at all. Thanks so much for your time 🩷

  • Emily (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    The first thing I’ll say is this: it’s worth it. If you want HRT, it’s worth the awkwardness. Besides that for me personally, there were a couple notable things. For a couple years at the start of my transition, I had essentially no libedo (having previously had a high one) because my testosterone levels dropped too low. Mine was below detectable levels, whereas about 0.8-0.9 was a more reasonable target for me. That is to say, watch out for low energy and libedo, women need testosterone too.

    Aside from that, I wouldn’t say I’ve had to “relearn” anything, but it has changed my relationship with my body. I like my body more than ever, and certain areas are more sensitive to stimulation than they were before. It’s great, I have whole new areas of my body I can enjoy in bed. On the other hand, as the dysphoria around the rest of my body has improved, my dysphoria around genitals has become more pronounced. It’s manageable, it’s something I had to learn to navigate and communicate to partners. HRT also commonly causes ED, but that’s nothing some Viagra can’t fix.

    It also didn’t change my interests (although they continued to develop), but it did change the quality of my attraction. Before it was aggressive when I was turned on, now it has a more slow burning desire to it. I want a build up and some foreplay leading in to it. It’s not a change in interest or skill, but you could call it a shift if you like.

    Also I look way hotter as a woman than I ever did as a man, so jot that down.

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      May I ask to what unit you’re referring when talking about testosterone levels? 0.8-0.9 what? I’m personally also below cis female levels (I’m at 12ng/dL) with just 5mg of CPA a day. I’m wondering if I should maybe reduce my CPA dose even further to maybe help my low libido.

      Edit: nevermind I figured out you’re probably referring to nmol/L. I’ll leave the comment up anyway for future reference. (0.8nmol/L are 23ng/dL and 12ng/dL are 0.4nmol/L)