If it makes you feel any better, the diagnosis doesn’t really help this. It’s just less ‘you don’t even know for sure you’re x’ and more ‘stop blaming your x for everything’.
Oh, I know. I learned to stop the self-criticism a long time ago and it really helps.
I am now on the offensive, I am a perfectly cromulent individual and have no trouble asserting my perfectly reasonable boundaries. It meant a huge shakeup of my social circle, as people do not usually allow others to change and grow once they have put you in a box.
Now though, I have found a circle of friends that don’t unwittingly ’neg’ me all the time.
If it makes you feel any better, the diagnosis doesn’t really help this. It’s just less ‘you don’t even know for sure you’re x’ and more ‘stop blaming your x for everything’.
Oh, I know. I learned to stop the self-criticism a long time ago and it really helps.
I am now on the offensive, I am a perfectly cromulent individual and have no trouble asserting my perfectly reasonable boundaries. It meant a huge shakeup of my social circle, as people do not usually allow others to change and grow once they have put you in a box.
Now though, I have found a circle of friends that don’t unwittingly ’neg’ me all the time.
Right there with you! Stay strong, it’s tough, but so worth it.