So recently I realised, that the more I transition I Am starting to resonate with women way more than I do with men. Its literally almost every aspect. Conversations are a bit more - let me call it like that - “soft”. No/less crude jokes, less talking while someone else speaks, more friendly vibes and so on. I also would 100% lie, that I didnt like it quite a lot when women ask about where I got my nail polish (I got a huge box with nail polish in it (from a friend) and there is one really cool looking red metallic one and quite regularly when I wear it other women ask about it). I had this realisation this weekend, when I was at an event where I knew no one (the event was 4 days long) and I realised that I kinda dont like socialising with men nearly as much as I do with women. I pretty much had the fun of my life simply because some of the women there were absolutely amazing.

  • Squished Fly (she/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Oh I know exactly what you’re talking about.

    Something I have also noticed since passing quite well is something my mom calls “female solidarity”. In a sense, a sort of connection between all of us.

    For example, I’ve gone to a lot of raves in my time both before and after passing as a girl for other people.

    • I do sometimes take (legal) substances but I do have bad trips from time to time, resulting in my energy going down a fuck ton. Nothing major, just getting really tired and relaxed (can also be a good feeling but not what I want from a rave). As a result, I tend to gravitate to corners or places where I can sit down. Before passing, nothing. I just was there. Who cares if I’d OD in that corner. Nowadays, I get approached almost exclusively by either other girls or security if everything is alright and if I need help.
    • I was at a rave with my bf recently and the same energy thing happened to me so I cuddled up against him and leaned my head on his shoulder. I got approached so often by other girls asking if everything is fine in case it was a case of him drugging me.
    • 8/10 times, being approached at raves by a guy means that they want to hit on me (which is strange for that community but times change I guess). I don’t think I ever had a bad experience with girls approaching me at raves. Either just raving a bit together or just in general the most wholesome experience.

    Or a non-rave example:

    • I was at the doctors office once with some sort of cold which made it really hard to talk. That kinda made communicating with the receptionist a bit of an issue, especially since the other people in the waiting area where kinda loud. As a result, the receptionist accidentally affirmed me so hard while still being early in my transition by saying “haha yes and then men say that we are the loud ones”. It just made me so happy