I still want to get better at socializing and it’s so difficult when neurotypicals act polite to your face and then do that! It makes to so hard to learn!
It’s entirely fair to want to get better at it, but those people probably couldn’t help you even if they were inclined to, because they’re bad at socializing- they invited someone whose socialization style doesn’t vibe with their party, then their response is to mock the guest for their own mistake.
Not everyone is like that, and not every neurotypical is like that. It’s hard to find a good group, but one exists for you.
Also, specifically regarding learning to socialize: you don’t necessarily have to get help from neurotypicals- that’s like having a math teacher who’s just naturally good at math, vs one who had to struggle to master it. You learn better from the latter if you’re not also gifted at math.
I still want to get better at socializing and it’s so difficult when neurotypicals act polite to your face and then do that! It makes to so hard to learn!
It’s entirely fair to want to get better at it, but those people probably couldn’t help you even if they were inclined to, because they’re bad at socializing- they invited someone whose socialization style doesn’t vibe with their party, then their response is to mock the guest for their own mistake.
Not everyone is like that, and not every neurotypical is like that. It’s hard to find a good group, but one exists for you.
Also, specifically regarding learning to socialize: you don’t necessarily have to get help from neurotypicals- that’s like having a math teacher who’s just naturally good at math, vs one who had to struggle to master it. You learn better from the latter if you’re not also gifted at math.
I agree it does suck. Hopefully you can find a group you can feel safe in to practice!