

I think your notion of charitable apathy probably only comes across as condescending if in your explanation you make it sound like you’ve never been (or would never be) in a position to receive that treatment from others.
I feel like a few words tossed in to clarify that would probably help people avoid a gut reaction about your ideas.
People might also be getting hung up on the idea of treating someone like a child. I had my kids a little later in life, and I treat my toddlers like adults. What do I do when an adult is crying? I sit with them and comfort them. What do I do if I see an adult about to step in dog shit? Yell to them to tell them a warning to watch their feet. What do I do if an adult tells me they’re hungry? I help them get food. What do I do if adult tells me they want to play with hot wheels with me? I say yes.
Maybe I fundamentally don’t understand how others conceptualize treating a child. I think that term is super loaded. Like the word “savory”. You can ask 10 people what the phrase/word means and you’ll get 10 confident and incompatible answers.
Led Zeppelin - How the West Was Won
I’d heard many times from people who were old enough to see them live that it was a completely unique experience, describing how the band fed off the energy of the crowd.
Didn’t fully comprehend the magnitude of that truth until I heard that live album. I’ve heard other live albums from other artists where it was performed roughly the same as the studio version with the further addition of a cheering crowd. This was a completely different animal.
How The West Was Won really showcased how malleable a work is in the hands of truly talented artists.