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  • Be aware that you are not alone in this. All people have the throat lump. It’s part of the speech hardware. Testosterone does cause it to grow larger, but cis women have it too. Cis women with visible adams apples have similar negative feelings about it. The idea that the throat lump is a male only structure, or it’s the tell for otherwise passing trans women, is misinformation peddled by transphobes. Also dysphoria has a tendency to hyperfixate on certain body parts. I can assure you, you are far more aware of your throat than anyone else.

    But anyway, practical solutions.

    Fashion! I know you’ve posted about your protective scarf. That’s a good thing! Concealment is effective. I would also suggest turtlenecks for this. They are a good look that conceals your entire neck. But also they make short sleeved and sleeveless turtlenecks that will still be suitable for summer.

    Another strategy is distraction. Instead of hiding the bad parts, draw the eye away from it. If you wear a necklace with a pendant, it will draw attention away from your neck and onto the pendant below. A top with an interesting neckline like a keyhole can work too. Really anything with a visually interesting pattern near but not on the neck will work well for this. People will pay far more attention to that then your neck.

    The value of the distraction strategy is that it doesn’t draw attention to itself. If you hide your neck it can make people think you have something to hide, which makes them curious. You can do this distraction strategy with posture too. If you carry yourself with the appearance of confidence as if nothing is wrong, people will pay far more attention to that then your neck.

    I would also suggest doing voice training if you’re not already. Or do it more enthusiastically from now on. A big part of feminizing your voice is changing the resonance to emphasize the higher overtones. Achieving that higher resonance raises the throat lump upward in your neck, which makes it far less viable. And with enough voice work, you can eventually just hold the throat lump consistently up as the default position.

    As far as more longterm things, when you gain weight, some fat will be deposited around your neck, which will make the lump less visible. It’s not very visible for me, but that’s mostly because I’ve not taken good care of myself for the past few decades. oops. To be clear, I’m not advising you to deliberately gain weight for this, especially if you’re not yet on estrogen. But once you are, over time the throat lump will become less visible. Most people do end up gaining weight in their mid 20s. Rest assured it will be less of a problem someday even if you do nothing.

    Also if its still a problem, I think is possible to get the lump surgically reduced. I know nothing about the details other than it is a thing. Obviously not something to do anytime soon.

    I hope this helps! Take care of yourself! <3 <3 <3







  • Sound is complicated. Its both physics and perception.

    The decibel scale is logarithmic. If you double the energy you increase the dB level by 3. Two people will be about 3 dB higher, four people would be 6, eight people would increase the level by 9 dB, sixteen would be 12 dB higher and so on.

    Some people in this thread are talking about destructive interference. That really only happens in noise canceling headphones, or situations designed to cause it. In open air, its not really an issue that comes up. I’ve never become quieter by playing an instrument with someone else. It just doesn’t work like that.

    What lets the monster hear you is the peak volume, not the minimum or average, so it will be close to the 3 dB doubling rule.

    There’s also perception. Your brain does a ton of filtering of sound information. Your brain is constantly trying to pick out the important sounds and ignore the rest. That’s why the quieter severs seem quieter when something louder happens. Also that’s why some people use white noise machines to sleep.


  • Its not hard to learn but it does take time to become confortable with it. I recommend renting a car. Driving manual car for the first time with the added stress of driving in a different county is a recipe for disaster. By all means try it. Take up the offer of that lesson, but its unwise to have to rely on a manual car for transport when you’ve never driven one before.

    But also make sure you actually need a car. The US is built with fully car dependent infrastructure, so americans are taught their whole lives to just assume they always need a car. That isn’t the case everywhere, and might not be where you’re going. Be sure to check.







  • You have made significant improvements since last time. Your voice sounds much more resonant and free to move in pitch. However I think most of my criticisms still apply. It sounds overly high, and forced rather than authentic.

    You seem to begin phrases at about 250hz, which is quite high. The voice book that was posted to the transvoice community recommends starting work at a pitch of 160-200hz. I just now decided to listen to my ideal female voice (Jennifer Hale’s commander shepherd from mass effect)(don’t judge), with a spectrogram, and she seems to start around 215hz, with most statements having a descending intonation that settles around 200hz. And I know plenty of cis women who have voices much deeper than that.

    You have quite a bit of room to relax and lower the pitch, which will probably help the tone. You have made good progress keep working!