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  • You have made significant improvements since last time. Your voice sounds much more resonant and free to move in pitch. However I think most of my criticisms still apply. It sounds overly high, and forced rather than authentic.

    You seem to begin phrases at about 250hz, which is quite high. The voice book that was posted to the transvoice community recommends starting work at a pitch of 160-200hz. I just now decided to listen to my ideal female voice (Jennifer Hale’s commander shepherd from mass effect)(don’t judge), with a spectrogram, and she seems to start around 215hz, with most statements having a descending intonation that settles around 200hz. And I know plenty of cis women who have voices much deeper than that.

    You have quite a bit of room to relax and lower the pitch, which will probably help the tone. You have made good progress keep working!





  • When I started HRT, my doctor had me ramp up the antiandrogen slowly over the course of 4 weeks. It was spironolactone and that caused some odd issues shortly after the increase day. Also I was on 4mg/day of sublingual estradiol. The weird feelings were weakness and an inability to regulate temperature, but nothing painful.

    Other antiandrogens are available, it’s probably a good idea to make some sort of change to your medicine. Pain is usually an indication that something is wrong.




  • Gender dysphoria is not diagnosed by the symptoms. The determining factors are the desire for change, and the presence of some sort of distress or discomfort. The specifics of the discomfort that you experience are not part of it. If you want to change your gender, and have some amount of discomfort as a result, you have gender dysphoria. From reading your post, it sure sounds like it.

    If you’re interested, I have included the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria and transsexualism from the American Psychiatric Association’s DSM-5, and the World Health Organization’s ICD-10 respectively. If you go to a doctor they will almost assuredly be using one of these documents to determine if you can be diagnosed for it. They both require some amount distress or discomfort but give no details on what that distress or discomfort feels like or how it manifests.

    DSM-5's Diagnostic criteria

    Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.85 (F64.1)

    A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:

    1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

    2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

    3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender.

    4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

    5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

    6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

    B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

    ICD-10's Diagnostic Criteria for Transsexualism

    F64.0

    Transsexualism

    A desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by a sense of discomfort with, or inappropriateness of, one’s anatomic sex and a wish to have hormonal treatment and surgery to make one’s body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex.

    Diagnostic guidelines

    For this diagnosis to be made, the transsexual identity should have been present persistently for at least 2 years, and must not be a symptom of another mental disorder, such as schizophrenia, or associated with any intersex, genetic, or sex chromosome abnormality.





  • My experience with dysphoria has always been subtle and unspecific. It took a very long time for me to recognize it.

    In adulthood, it was little more than a slight inclination towards depression. Whenever I would notice it, it was far easier to attribute it to immediate circumstances.

    When I felt it in winter, surely its just seasonal depression. When I felt it in summer, its just because I hate summer. During covid I was miserable because I couldn’t go anywhere, then afterwards I was miserable because I had to go places. This was all dysphoria, but nothing about it gave any indication it was about gender.

    Also I had the emotional range of a thimble. (what is this metaphor?) I could feel empty, or angry, and little else.

    I never liked how I looked in pictures avoided taking them, or appearing in them when possible. I guess I’m just ugly, that’s the most reasonable explanation.

    It took me a very long time to realize I was trans, and even longer to be ready to accept it. It wasn’t until I started HRT and most of what I have described went away that I realized it was dysphoria.

    I dislike the word dysphoria, because its such a strong word. For a long time I thought that my subtle and nonspecific feelings couldn’t possibly be enough to be dysphoria.

    To anyone out there reading this because you’re uncertain if you’re feeling dysphoria: When a disorder is named after its symptoms it’s usually named at a very early stage of research, when researchers are only able to find the most obvious examples. This is why so many disorders have incredibly scary sounding names. Dysphoria can be that bad for some, but it can also be so subtle you don’t even realize you’re suffering.


  • Waist measurements for women are made quite high, above the navel. Hip measurements are made around the middle of the butt. The jeans will only be the width of the waist measurement if they are high rise jeans. Mid rise jeans don’t go high enough to reach the natural waist, so the waist measurement is less of an issue.

    Keep in mind the measurements are a circumference. 8 inches seems like a lot, but it equates to around 1-2 inches of linear distance, which is much less than it seems.

    Women’s jeans tend to be made with much stretchier fabrics than men’s jeans. That’s why women’s jeans look better and are more form fitting. If the measurements are a little off in some place, the stretch of the fabric will help.

    I just measured my jeans looping the tape measure through the belt loops and it went from 39" when relaxed to 45" when pulled tight. There’s a lot of leeway.

    I would recommend getting mid rise jeans and prioritizing the hip measurement over the waist measurement. If you pick the size that is close it will probably be close enough.






  • You are going to change slowly and gradually once you start HRT. That’s the most important thing. Get that started as early as possible.

    I would advise you to freeze your sperm before you start HRT, unless you are sure you don’t want children. The informed consent documents listed two irreversible changes, sterility and breasts.

    I’m about 3 and a half month on HRT. I barely have breast shape at this point. My measurements have not changed enough that my old clothes no longer fit comfortably. You’ll have time to adjust to the changes. You’ll have plenty of time to gradually upgrade your wardrobe, and learn makeup, there’s no need to work these things out in advance.

    Delay is fine for everything except the HRT and cryopreservation if applicable. Get that E, sis!