Thank you!

Understandable, but that’s not my problem.

I answer honestly. “I intended to do it, but I could not force myself to do it.”

When I am having a bad pain day, I don’t make anything else up either. It makes little sense to answer “why didn’t you go up the stairs?” with anything other than “My legs hurt so bad I can barely walk,” so why make something up for ADHD?

Have you tried wool or cotton socks? I’m talking socks with NO polyester or anything else like it in there. It might help with that damp feeling.

Mmm… Baskin-Robbins roast

My balance has a dash in front of it… Probably because I am a cool dude. 😎

I got you, fam.

No, what is the difference?

Loss of benefits

My partner and I are committed, and want to get married. Can’t for financial reasons.

We both have to go to the hospital every once in a while (bad health). I fear for the time I am barred from seeing her because it is “family only” and I am legally a stranger.

I worked with someone that I later found out used AI to code her stuff. She knew how to code some, but didn’t understand a lot of fundamentals.

Turns out, she would have AI write most of it, tweak it to work with her test cases, and call it good.

Half of my time was spent fixing her code, and when she was fired, our customer complaints went way down.

I knew people from bigger cities that had metal detectors in the mid-aughts. I think they’re wider spread now, but I don’t know much about schools now. Not sure about X-ray machines, never heard about those in a school.

In the sticks, we don’t have any of the machines. The textbooks are usually older than the pupils too and a lot of the stuff is in poor repair, so it may be an issue of funding.

My partner has a similar deal going on. She also needs specialty shoes because of a condition. She would get sneakers, since they were in style. My advice comes from this experience. She cannot wear anything that isn’t flat to the ground due to the aforementioned foot condition and her styles available to her are limited.

If you want to minimize your foot, choose darker colors. It doesn’t have to be black, you could go for brown, gray, or blue. A dark shoe with some light accents would also be fine. Choose styles that aren’t just one color/flat texture. It needs to be broken up with some sort of detail. You don’t need to worry about this with sneakers, since they always seem to have something going on, even ones that are all one color.

Avoid this, which is pretty same-y in the front

This has a little more going on and doesn’t look like one big, unbroken expanse

The other thing: look at the rest of your outfit.

I think skinny jeans or regular leggings (where you’re not wearing them under something like a skirt) would highlight your feet since these will just visually get smaller from your rear to your feet, until your feet. It would definitely cause a lot of contrast. Skirts should be fine, or any cut of jeans not skinny.

But of course, these are just suggestions. Only take the guidelines you like, and rock whatever you want. Fuck the haters.

What would he do on his own? What would have you done on your own as a kid? If these answers are different, why?

How will negative consequences be handled, like he doesn’t pay rent, runs out of money for food, or he damages the apartment? What about really big ones, like he allows someone to stay over long enough that they become an established tenant, cause problems, and then don’t leave? In your jurisdiction, are there legal consequences for you if he breaks the law that you would not face if he were legally an adult?

Is there a plan for if he decides he wants to move back?

Do you foresee any legal consequences? For instance, if his school learns about this arrangement, will CPS or the police get involved? Is that something you can recover from?

In the right circumstances, I think this is a good idea. As a parent, your job is to prepare him for adulthood. Letting him live on his own, while meeting his needs (food, shelter, healthcare) with a safety net can work. A lot can make these the wrong circumstances. Only you can answer whether or not the circumstances are right in your situation.

I’m in the United States. Something about doctors protecting their own licenses when it comes to prescribing controlled substances.

I got diagnosed but I can’t get meds because I use cannabis to manage my chronic pain. 😞

I shook my head like a snow globe and I still have no clue what’s going on.

All time is poo time when you’re close to the boss’s desk

Yep. Diagnosed ADHD, doc says very likely autism but we aren’t pursuing diagnosis.

Currently investigating physical issues I have as well. It looks like I have an autoimmune disorder too.

I’m not lazy and useless. I just have a lot holding me back, and given knowing that, I have kicked major ass. I escaped poverty and homelessness.

It’s hard not to mourn all of the lost opportunities due to bad luck, lack of support, and several then-undiagnosed disabilities.

*shouldn’t have had a crisis where someone calls an ambulance

I like making surfaces in my home shiny, like my microwave or shower. Would you find a sense of accomplishment cleaning something small like your sink and admiring it? Sometimes I like the squeaky sounds when I scrub a surface… Kind of soothing.

I find if I just focus on a little part at a time, the task seems less daunting and it makes it easier to get started.