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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • You can try looking into a sleep position trainer. It isn’t what you’re asking about, but it has had good results in reducing or eliminating the paralysis episodes, so it’s a similar outcome.

    The problem with what you’re specifically asking about is that nobody has gone into production afaik. There’s patents for things like they, but they’re either junk (and obviously so), or would be way too complicated to set up and use reliably. Sleep paralysis isn’t usually responsive to just shaking by itself.

    But you could try something similar to the alarms made for deaf people, if you have a consistent timing with your episodes. Or do something like strap a massager to your hand where you can cut it on and hope that the vibration breaks through. People have made that work, though it isn’t consistent afaik.






  • Heck yeah!

    A very good friend gifted me one when he upgraded to the oled model, and it totally brought back my love of gaming. I hadn’t really been able to because of health issues, what with not being able to stay at my desk very long.

    But this sucker? It’s running everything I’ve thrown at it so far. Baldur’s gate 3, and 2. Genshin. Stuff like stardew valley.

    The worst one to get set up was genshin because they insist on having their own launcher. Makes updates a pain in the ass. Luckily, I don’t play it often, so I don’t care much lol.

    I can be in bed, on the couch, even in the john if I want to, and enjoy the hell out of the experience. Worst case, I might have to fiddle with settings if the game doesn’t have native controller support, or piddle with stuff like heroic or lutris if a game is pissy installing.




  • Eh, short term it’s no big deal. Teeth are durable as hell and won’t get fucked up by anything that minor if it’s a rare thing. But, the more you do it, the more damage accumulates over time. A few times a year over decades? Never gonna notice it.

    A few times a month, and it’ll be a decade or two before it would be a problem.

    A few times a week, and you’d better have dental coverage and/or good income, because you’re looking at a few years before it starts showing up as carries. Less if circumstances are bad, or you didn’t start out with very good teeth.

    There’s also the fact that keeping in the habit of brushing after eating stays a habit better if you don’t deviate from it without an important reason. In my mind, if you’re awake enough to eat, you’re awake enough to brush afterward. If you aren’t awake enough to brush, then you probably shouldn’t be eating either. Fucks with digestion and metabolism. It’s better to just stay on track and skip the snack, if you dig me.

    But nah, if it’s a rare thing, you’ll take more damage from a soda than a single night skipping brushing after a midnight nosh. It’s all about the acids.

    Now, if you can’t be bothered to at least swish out with some water, I’d say you’ve got worse things to worry about because you can do that on your way back to bed, swallow it and take zero extra effort beyond the mouthful of water. If your energy is that low, or there’s some other impediment involved, focus on that.




  • Yeah, I’d be looking for someone else too. I don’t believe in being a slave to a clock, but he’s just not matching your needs and expectations even when he’s there, so it just isn’t a good pairing. A trainer and client have to be on the same page for them to be able to really guide you.

    Sorry you’re working so hard and not being supported right. There’s plenty of room for a relaxed trainer, but that’s not what you need to meet your goals. Sucky position to be in. If it wasn’t prepaid, I’d say just walk entirely since it’s a recurring issue.

    Good thing is that trainers tend to have a fairly high turnover rate, so he may end up not being there long.


  • IDGAF about five minutes in most circumstances. There’s just too much shit that matters way more.

    If it was something that was a dealbreaker metrics because it fucked other things up for me, I’d want to know what the deal was, communicate that my needs weren’t being met, and decide to stay a member/customer based on that, but it’s not something that would bother me.

    I refuse to be a fucking slave to the clock on my phone, and wouldn’t insist anyone else be either. Back before network clocks, we all did fine without and nobody died.






  • Ignoring context, it would be unusual, but not inherently worrying. There’s plenty of mothers that help guide their daughters to an age appropriate sex toy, and some that will do the same for their sons. Rarer, there are fathers that will do so, but men have to worry more about external opinions about such. A mothers buys a dildo for their kid, the default assumption is that it’s weird, but not bad. A father does it, and the default assumption is that he’s over the line.

    That being said parents should be the default source is advice about such things, because a bunch of young idiots (as opposed to old idiots) trying to advise each other about things they don’t have much experience with is a recipe for hospital visits.

    In terms of general purpose guidance, and funding/ordering sex toys, there’s nothing wrong with a parent helping their kids in that way, assuming care is taken. There’s even an argument to be made that verbal instructions on safe use are even to be encouraged, and helpful hints aren’t exactly out of line (for real, a lot of young people masturbate in unhealthy ways that just a few sentences could prevent much trouble down the line).

    In context, with the info you provided in comments, the mother in question is not being a good parent in this case, so it fits the word abnormal in the sense that it is unhealthy.


  • As I’ve been discovering what I strongly suspect is adhd within my own brain (undiagnosed, and likely will never pursue such), I think my analogy is that my cpu is over clocked and running hot. Plenty of ram usually, and the storage is plentiful but in need of a defragging; but that CPU is always churning, even when there’s no tasks assigned to it.

    I’m also discovering that what I thought the H in adhd meant isn’t what it really means in practice. I always thought of it is translating to a physical expression, but it doesn’t, at least not for me. It’s pretty much exclusively internal for me.