In English there’s often no good way to avoid connotations other than a massive wall of text, and even there people will frequently ignore caveats.

I did find myself over a very long time and it turns out “myself” oscillates between several different points uncontrollably and I somehow think that’s not gonna be considered an acceptable answer.

Other FOSS people don’t tend to get loads of money from Cloudflare or all this attention for what’s not even that interesting a project.

The Ladybird project is also run by someone who’s said some bad things but it hasn’t exploded in popularity or received 6 figures in corporate donations. Something feels off about this Omarchy hype… like, the product isn’t even that amazing, so the only thing I imagine could explain this difference is that it’s DHH doing it.

I’m not sure how you’re compiling the kernel to take up 70GB, my Linux directory hovers around 6GB.

It’s always frustrating when people focus on the risks of doing something but ignore the risks of not doing anything.

🫂

Transitioning mtf but sometimes not feeling the “correct” gender in a way that wasn’t dysphoria.

Add a built-in calculator so my mental math can be better

Oo, yeah, I remember disliking the over-the-top praise.

Arch

I asked my parents what names they were thinking of before the genital reveal and just picked one. I think the limited choices helped me actually commit to one.

Let’s reframe that. Instead of thinking “I don’t have much dysphoria so maybe I’m not trans” you should ask yourself “what do I think I can do to have the most enjoyable life possible?”.

You’re allowed to change your mind, you’re allowed to make suboptimal decisions, and most decisions are reversible so for those you don’t really have to consider long-term consequences. If you want to identify some way, even just to test it out, go for it! You can change that later if it doesn’t fit, and there’s not much harm to it. Even if you’re mistaken, it usually just means you ended up experiencing more awkward time than necessary, not much of a consequence.

The hardest part is probably gonna be getting over the fear of being wrong, of feeling like you lied to people. You didn’t, there’s nothing wrong with being mistaken. But I know the brain gets anxious over it 🫂. I hope you have a wonderful life wherever it takes you.

I’d love to be able to ask directly, but my fear is they’ll treat me differently after I ask. It’s already happened once to me; a friend stopped hanging out with me for a while (I think that’s fixed now, but it lasted months). I feel a bit safer about it around autistic people though, because I’m pretty sure a rejection would be just a “no” and then we proceed like nothing happened.

Sometimes the true answer is “idk” and I’d rather hear that than false and contradictory rationalizations for why they’re mad.

Given the demographics of Linux devs, it probably would be the latter.

And you can’t just ask because, like measuring a quantum system, measurement perturbs the system.

“Bazinga”

Biology, such as how much the body responds to hormones and how that destroys the idea of binary sex.

I get colder more easily now but my heat tolerance hasn’t changed :(

Eldritch horror beyond mortal comprehension

Overwhelming emotions all the time that she cannot explain or process… the only answer she comes to is IDK.

Open-ended questions can be hard. Perhaps you can ask a series of simpler questions, such as “are you feeling good/bad/neutral/idk?” with follow ups for emotions like happy, sad, excited (can be good/bad/neutral), tired, etc. If you’re asking to gauge her response to something, consider asking something like “is this a good/bad/neutral/idk thing” and digging deeper into what aspects are good/bad; then you can ask about concrete plans like “should we seek/avoid that?” or “should I stop/continue that?” and elaborate further on how you should try to achieve those.

Of course, there is a risk of overwhelming her with questions, so you should probably monitor for symptoms and behaviors that indicate she’s getting more overwhelmed, or even just ask.