A T4T relationship might be better, that way you both (probably) understand each other better than you and the average Grindr person would. Or maybe even just having safe queer friends to talk to.

From my experience, it was very hard to have good friendships or romantic relationships while I hated myself, so anything to bootstrap your self worth is probably good. If Grindr is giving you a quick dopamine hit but leaving you feeling worthless as a person, that’s probably a net negative. Also keep in mind that progress is nonlinear; the first 50% of effort will seem to increase your self worth very little, but even a small increase is great because that growth is exponential.

I don’t think the looks people give scale linearly with how nonconforming you are, so you’re probably already near peak look from others.

I’ve had to fluff up what I say to explicitly say “I don’t mean [x], I’m not implying [y]”, but I can’t cover everything and so I still get hostility, it’s very frustrating.

I’ve noticed that people (including me) try to build a mental model of your beliefs very quickly, so without much context to base it on they usually base it on stereotypes (e.g. nitpicking a science claim is the sort of thing a science denier would do, therefore you’re probably that even if you just noticed a tiny incorrect detail and that’s it). It doesn’t help that over text, if you wanted to get that context and not make assumptions about others, you’re going to have to spend a lot of time writing questions and waiting multiple back-and-forths for answers to inform your next questions.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that most disagreements online are arguments about something where facts are just pawns to be played to win. I’m sure most of us have seen this play out, and usually if someone gets obviously proven wrong they just pull out the next fact and move goalposts, because most people don’t like “losing”. So if you say something like “I think you’re wrong because [x]”, you look exactly like the people arguing who have an implicit agenda. And I can’t blame people for assuming that, because if you give everyone the benefit of the doubt you lose sooo much time to the ~80% of arguers with a hidden agenda.

Made with AI? Really? What would GNU think?

Children are subhuman I guess. Just puppets played by their parents.

I guess that’s the downside of people talking mostly about what they personally did: you’re much less likely to learn the details of something less people do or know about.

But yeah, voice dysphoria sucks, I hope you feel better regardless of how you go about doing that 🫂

What? Nova is a rewrite of Nouveau from scratch by Redhat devs to better support newer cards.

If you wish you could do it in the past, why not do it now?

Specifically in the Linux kernel, the 2 big reasons to use it are memory safety (huuuuggee benefit) and that a lot of younger devs like it and thus it will attract their contributions.

The only reasons I can think of to not use it are that some people want their own toolchain and having multiple languages in the kernel adds complication. But tbh, none of that justifies banning Rust stuff that realistically wouldn’t have been written at all if C were the only option.

And then there’s the people who show up in Phoronix, HN, Reddit, and YouTube comments saying Rust is over-hyped without showing why it’s unfit for purpose and also trying to dictate what someone does with their own project. Perhaps it’s something to do with the representation of queer people and other minorities in the Rust community, because otherwise I do not understand why people would be sooo passionate in hating the Rust community like the group I described above is.

It matters to potential contributors. It’s also a floating signifier for a lot of things.

cargo cult

Yeah, you wouldn’t. My point is that’s because it’s preinstalled, not because of any GUI/CLI advantage.

man genfstab gave an error? Neither CLI nor GUI is gonna help with simply not having something installed that the guide assumed.

I’m glad autism doesn’t have a “cure”, because I’m sure it would’ve been used to eugenics autism out of existence.

I can’t even mount my Android storage to my computer without some unreliable MTP FUSE program.

Do people not exercise theory of mind enough? Does he not ever realize that people live whole lives outside of what he sees and imagines?

You assume they think through it beyond “I don’t get it therefore it’s fake”

Someone mistook me as trans and asked “why can’t you just be gay?”, which was a great point, so I transitioned so I could be gay like they asked.

Worked on my machine last I checked, and I don’t have a useragent spoofer

Yeah, that happened to me too. I look back on those egg days somewhat fondly, because I felt a magic from finally being able to imagine a happy future and who I could be.