So straight out the gate: I don’t ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I’m not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.

Note: I am a guy.

Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.

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    I feel like talking amicably just falls under being friendly by definition lol

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      “Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let’s meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?”

      But if I sign it off like this. That would MAKE the message pretty clear, right?

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        Not really, I would take it at face value. Unless the person sent some really strong signals. And even then I would just do the conclusion that requires the least assumptions, which is just friend vibes.

        But you can still be explicit afte the fact. I get is hard tho, since you have to be pretty vulnerable.

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          Eh, just say, “I’m trying to flirt with you. How’s it doing?”

          And if she laughs, you’re in. If she does squirmy-squirm face, “Well, I had to try. Now let’s enjoy this awkward silence together.” And stare at the ground silently, but for no more than three seconds.

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            Never more than 3 seconds. Listen up guys, most important part!

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              Well, then it actually is awkward instead of a confident, “I saw this coming lol” silence.

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        Yeah that’s a decent way to start. Giving compliments is a great way to flirt! Saying something like “That was a great conversation, you’re easy to talk to” might even be a bit more flirty without putting yourself that much further out.