I see this on Imgur and Bluesky as well. Here’s a great example, and the one that prompted me to finally ask. My daughter has autism and ADHD. She takes speed to slow down. Best friend is ADHD, same deal. But they’re basically “normal” people. I’m truly sorry is this comes off as insensitive.
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It’s normal to be aware of how people perceive us. We are apes. Need I elaborate?
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We ALL mess up more when someone is watching. Forget the word, but it’s a well-known psychological tic.
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Yes, we all conform and hide parts of ourselves in public, doesn’t mean you can’t “be yourself”. Want to see someone who doesn’t mask at all? Trump.
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If you’re not aware of threats, Darwin would like a word. And yes, many things we perceive as threats are dumb monkey perceptions. We’re all silly in this way.
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Uh, I double check my door locks. Not paranoid, but my situation in America makes that a simple, smart move. Some people live around lots of strangers, checking your private space is a normal thing.
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We all hate being stared at. That’s a monkey threat. We evolved that way.
The “suspicious sounds” thing is the only part I’d pick out as a bit strange. But who hasn’t jumped when the ice maker kicks in? I’ve often thought someone crawled in the dog door. (A bear did one time, a hybrid wolf another, so let me slide on that one.)
I can go on /c/autism and pick 100 other memes for examples. Almost every single thing I see there, “Yeah, we all go though that/feel that way/do that thing.” Here’s one:
https://piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone/posts/6k/Lb/6kLbDigyQuftk4k.jpg
Doesn’t everyone do that now and again?! I feel like I’m taking crazy pills.
Serious questions:
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Does lemmy have an above normal number of autistic/ADHD people?
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Is this perception a way for young people to feel special and different?
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Maybe young people don’t realize just how fucking weird growing up is and think they have a problem?
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Do people not realize that even after adulthood, we all have weird foibles?
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Are people so socially isolated that they think their weird thoughts are uncommon?
Just want to start the discussion. Help me understand.
Could be that everyone identifies with the same things that the group you’re referring to experiences. But that group often has it much worse than most people. Or that the vocal minority of that group misrepresents the hole.
What you see as “basically normal” is after they are medicated. Isn’t that the point of the medication? Maybe go look at someone who stops taking it for an experiment.
That first sentence is likely my answer! People are identifying with the memes, therefore they feel they belong to that group when they may truly not. I am not a smart man.
As to medication, LOL. My ADHD best friend and his ADHD wife brought some Ritalin home one afternoon. Very excited, they invited me to join in snorting a line. I was bouncing off the walls like I was on meth. They got calm and were very happy to just sit on the couch and talk.
Another funny one; When we were 17 a salesman in the department store offered us coffee he was selling. Gf: “No, that will put me to sleep.” Say what?! True enough. We met and lived with each other 10-years later, coffee knocked her out cold.
But what really turned my head was seeing my 6-yo daughter on medicine the first time. She never struck me as “abnormal” until I saw her on speed. We watched her literally stop and smell the flowers.
For adhd you will be diagnosed as either hyperactive, primary inattentive, or combined. The primary inattentive I believe is the type most often diagnosed in women if I remember correctly, it is what I was diagnosed with, though I am male. It is less noticeably disruptive to others and less likely to be diagnosed than hyperactive, though it is a spectrum. To that point, I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 35. You may not be bouncing off the walls and seem normal, but your thoughts are bouncing around in your head. It is hard to work if you can’t focus on the task at hand, it is hard to talk to people if you can’t focus on the conversation. Alternatively, that does go great if you hyper focus on the thing you are doing, but that’s the problem with it, you don’t choose to hyperfocus, it happens.
I have found medication exceedingly helpful in managing my symptoms, currently on 60mg of lisdexfetamine(sp?). It’s not perfect, but it is great. I wasn’t sure it was working initially, but after missing several doses close together it was apparent it had been working but became my new normal, because without it I slipped into that overstimulated thought chaos much more easily. Different medications work for different people and not for others. Some swear by some of the non stimulants, but they didn’t work for me, and one gave me mild ED while I was on it
I’m now amused at myself because my first comment was a flippant one liner and now this response is a run on word vomit