I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.
I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.
I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.
Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?
Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect
If you don’t mind my asking, which app? I’m dealing with the same thing.
I love my friends and family, but I feel too overwhelmed to actually reach out to them. Every conversation feels “too much” even if it’s just general stuff.
It’s called Kinly Connect. It’s just a little reminder app for relationships. I add a few contacts and it tells me when I haven’t talked to them in a while, and allows me to add notes/reminders to them. Helps with the out of sight out of mind thing without overwhelming me.
I have the exact same issue that every conversation feels like too much, and it’s never the correct time to get into such a conversation. So I’ll delay it to do it later and then never get around to it.
I’m still trying to work on this as well. I’ve found small messages is all it takes, but in my head I used to always feel like I had to do a long catch-up which just put me off. I know a lot of people like us struggle with this so thought I’d share whats worked for me
Me too. Don’t think there is a single relationship I’ve been able to maintain in my life.