• mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works
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      1 hour ago

      You know what? Fair.

      I don’t like Hexbear, but r/196 was a toxic cesspool on Reddit, and I’ve always tried to stay clear of the Lemmy version because of it

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      I’m rly glad Hexbear defederated Blahaj because I just don’t have the bandwidth to deal with those people most of the time. I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman, and it’s not just the mansplaining and the pig poop balls

      • Diva (she/her)@lemmy.ml
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        I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman

        can you elaborate, because as a trans woman I’ve not felt unsafe at all.

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          Any time I said something they disagreed with on a shared community, I got dogpiled with “um, ackshually” style responses or even called a CIA agent. It felt like a hostile and unforgiving place, where I had to measure up to their standards or I’d just be punished. It was easy to feel like I’d be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn’t like. I stayed quiet about that sort of stuff when I saw them in a thread because I didn’t feel like I could be open, I stuck to things that were less personal to me.

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            57 minutes ago

            It’s funny how their reaction to you calling them out on dogpilling is to… dogpile on you

            lol

          • OpheliaAzure@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            1 hour ago

            sounds like the problem wasn’t with the fact you are a trans woman but rather that you have reactionary beliefs that were challenged

            lemmy.blahaj.zone defederated from hexbear over a year ago so what shared space?

            https://hexbear.net/post/369410

            moss the same person who fucked the first 196 community here is the same person that fucked the relations between hexbear and blahaj

          • Diva (she/her)@lemmy.ml
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            3 hours ago

            It was easy to feel like I’d be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn’t like.

            Weird, because they ban people for that. I’ve been called plenty of hostile shit voicing my experiences as a trans woman in shared lemmy spaces too, and it’s not from hexbear users.