People who think its weird to 1) express shock at a question and then 2) formulate an answer after they mulled it over a bit?
That isn’t weird at all.
What is weird is being incredulous at this phenomenon.
It implies at least one of a few things:
That you think anyone who says ‘huh?’ is indicating that they didn’t understand the literal words and meaning of question as spoken… not that they did understand it literally, but are expressing surprise that that question was asked, or any other possible thing that could be conveyed by ‘huh?’, maybe disgust, maybe horror, maybe annoyance, maybe nearly anything, etc.
That not having an instant response to any concievable question is abnormal.
Those things could imply that the person who thinks this way is impulsive, not inclined to deliberate or consider potentional outcomes before acting/speaking, and/or also overconfident about their ability to understand language and expressions.
Also could imply they have a tendency toward totalizing, not being precise, not considering nuance or context.
IE, a person who genuienly holds this belief is more likely to be offended by their own / innocent misunderstandings, and is more likely to act rapidly, without hesitation, as well as potentially in a more severe way.
… like a psychopath.
Uno!
EDIT:
Sorry, I had to expand this a bit as I went… you know, because I thought about it more.
I think you nailed it. Some people make very shallow observations, then use them to criticise others. I assume this is an attempt to make themselves feel superior.
All they’re really showing is they’re not particularly bright.
Well fortunately as a fellow autist, I am capable of entirely believing you based just on you saying that, without having to see you pantomime some sufficient level of ‘genuineness’ expressions =P
Yes! Autism is partly social difficulty, but that is not the same as a lack of social/emotional perceptivity. The difficulty is mutual among all parties.
I totally ’get’ what is going on in most social encounters, I just feel very little obligation to expend the energy to match the situation quite often.
Lately, I have become more ‘demanding’ socially. It’s working fine, and my attitude has become ‘I will meet people halfway’ in terms of working to accommodate the group vibe.
Quite often, others will sus out my wavelength too and it results in them doing more of their share of the ‘work’ of socializing. If not, well, I am better off learning that they won’t do their share.
I have lately become utterly fine with who I am. I am the normal one, conform to me.
I think we need to culturally go back to roughly Daria as a metaphor for / example of autism.
She can see through basically every social situation, almost always reads them with more accuracy and insight than everyone else, is analytical, witty, deadpan, detached… but still has and is capable of expressing emotions.
Thats a high functioning autist to me, the difference to nowadays is… nobody really had a widely used (and often misused) pathologizing term for that in the 90s, and hadn’t spent 20 yrs infantalizing such people as socially stunted, so Daria had actual self confidence and wasn’t stigmatized.
I had tons of friends growing up, they just thought I was quirky… nobody knew I was autistic till I figured it out in my 30s.
Only thing I would add is that the dynamics you describe serve certain psychological functions for the individual - everything from feeling less insecure to developing an identity.
I’m an autist, this person strikes me as exactly the kind of extremely overconfident and impulsive asshole I would hate to be around… because I take time to think about what I say, before I say it, and they seem to hate the very idea of maybe thinking before speaking.
Nope, uno reverse card on this one.
People who think its weird to 1) express shock at a question and then 2) formulate an answer after they mulled it over a bit?
That isn’t weird at all.
What is weird is being incredulous at this phenomenon.
It implies at least one of a few things:
That you think anyone who says ‘huh?’ is indicating that they didn’t understand the literal words and meaning of question as spoken… not that they did understand it literally, but are expressing surprise that that question was asked, or any other possible thing that could be conveyed by ‘huh?’, maybe disgust, maybe horror, maybe annoyance, maybe nearly anything, etc.
That not having an instant response to any concievable question is abnormal.
Those things could imply that the person who thinks this way is impulsive, not inclined to deliberate or consider potentional outcomes before acting/speaking, and/or also overconfident about their ability to understand language and expressions.
Also could imply they have a tendency toward totalizing, not being precise, not considering nuance or context.
IE, a person who genuienly holds this belief is more likely to be offended by their own / innocent misunderstandings, and is more likely to act rapidly, without hesitation, as well as potentially in a more severe way.
… like a psychopath.
Uno!
EDIT:
Sorry, I had to expand this a bit as I went… you know, because I thought about it more.
I think you nailed it. Some people make very shallow observations, then use them to criticise others. I assume this is an attempt to make themselves feel superior.
All they’re really showing is they’re not particularly bright.
Some of us autists actually have very high “EQ”, we just aren’t always choosing to be as expressive or dramatic as some others seem to need.
I may resemble that remark. Strongly.
Well fortunately as a fellow autist, I am capable of entirely believing you based just on you saying that, without having to see you pantomime some sufficient level of ‘genuineness’ expressions =P
Yes! Autism is partly social difficulty, but that is not the same as a lack of social/emotional perceptivity. The difficulty is mutual among all parties.
I totally ’get’ what is going on in most social encounters, I just feel very little obligation to expend the energy to match the situation quite often.
Lately, I have become more ‘demanding’ socially. It’s working fine, and my attitude has become ‘I will meet people halfway’ in terms of working to accommodate the group vibe.
Quite often, others will sus out my wavelength too and it results in them doing more of their share of the ‘work’ of socializing. If not, well, I am better off learning that they won’t do their share.
I have lately become utterly fine with who I am. I am the normal one, conform to me.
I think we need to culturally go back to roughly Daria as a metaphor for / example of autism.
She can see through basically every social situation, almost always reads them with more accuracy and insight than everyone else, is analytical, witty, deadpan, detached… but still has and is capable of expressing emotions.
Thats a high functioning autist to me, the difference to nowadays is… nobody really had a widely used (and often misused) pathologizing term for that in the 90s, and hadn’t spent 20 yrs infantalizing such people as socially stunted, so Daria had actual self confidence and wasn’t stigmatized.
I had tons of friends growing up, they just thought I was quirky… nobody knew I was autistic till I figured it out in my 30s.
Only thing I would add is that the dynamics you describe serve certain psychological functions for the individual - everything from feeling less insecure to developing an identity.
I can’t tell if this is serious.
Absolutely 100% serious.
I’m an autist, this person strikes me as exactly the kind of extremely overconfident and impulsive asshole I would hate to be around… because I take time to think about what I say, before I say it, and they seem to hate the very idea of maybe thinking before speaking.