• anugeshtu@lemmy.world
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    54 minutes ago

    Huh? I mean, damn, lots of comments are wild. Just let people breathe a bit. Sometimes I’m also only realizing one or two things after I started talking. Sometimes even mid-sentence. And also, maybe for some people “huh” is just an instinctive reaction they burp out randomly. Also I go with the “what’s huh after all” comment. Maybe they just abstracted the meaning of it in those simple letters. Maybe “huh” means a world to them

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    3 hours ago

    What about people who say

    “You’ll never guess what happened at work today?”

    So you respond with

    “What?”

    Then they repeat the question

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    correction people who say huh when you are 𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 a question and then cut you off by saying “oh I know” are psychopaths. Of course you know dumbass I just told you, if you actually knew why did you ask

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      4 hours ago

      I’m schizophrenic, which isn’t good for my case here bubs, I know, sociopathic psycopothy, but I often times use this as a long term memory device to get me to remember things better, aswell as move to a space where, ‘hey, now I know, this is surprising, cool’ because I do have mental issues and overstimulated sensory issues, so, yeah, love you, I’m totally a dumbass, just how some people are

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    When I worked at RadioShack (late 00’s), I would get so tunnelvisioned doing things like planograms or putting away orders, and not really reacting when people talk to me…and I would do this constantly.

    My manager at the time referred to it as “buffering”, and I don’t think there’s a better term for it.

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    Nope, uno reverse card on this one.

    People who think its weird to 1) express shock at a question and then 2) formulate an answer after they mulled it over a bit?

    That isn’t weird at all.

    What is weird is being incredulous at this phenomenon.

    It implies at least one of a few things:

    That you think anyone who says ‘huh?’ is indicating that they didn’t understand the literal words and meaning of question as spoken… not that they did understand it literally, but are expressing surprise that that question was asked, or any other possible thing that could be conveyed by ‘huh?’, maybe disgust, maybe horror, maybe annoyance, maybe nearly anything, etc.

    That not having an instant response to any concievable question is abnormal.

    Those things could imply that the person who thinks this way is impulsive, not inclined to deliberate or consider potentional outcomes before acting/speaking, and/or also overconfident about their ability to understand language and expressions.

    Also could imply they have a tendency toward totalizing, not being precise, not considering nuance or context.

    IE, a person who genuienly holds this belief is more likely to be offended by their own / innocent misunderstandings, and is more likely to act rapidly, without hesitation, as well as potentially in a more severe way.

    … like a psychopath.

    Uno!

    EDIT:

    Sorry, I had to expand this a bit as I went… you know, because I thought about it more.

    • SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      I think you nailed it. Some people make very shallow observations, then use them to criticise others. I assume this is an attempt to make themselves feel superior.

      All they’re really showing is they’re not particularly bright.

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        Some of us autists actually have very high “EQ”, we just aren’t always choosing to be as expressive or dramatic as some others seem to need.

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            Well fortunately as a fellow autist, I am capable of entirely believing you based just on you saying that, without having to see you pantomime some sufficient level of ‘genuineness’ expressions =P

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          Yes! Autism is partly social difficulty, but that is not the same as a lack of social/emotional perceptivity. The difficulty is mutual among all parties.

          I totally ’get’ what is going on in most social encounters, I just feel very little obligation to expend the energy to match the situation quite often.

          Lately, I have become more ‘demanding’ socially. It’s working fine, and my attitude has become ‘I will meet people halfway’ in terms of working to accommodate the group vibe.

          Quite often, others will sus out my wavelength too and it results in them doing more of their share of the ‘work’ of socializing. If not, well, I am better off learning that they won’t do their share.

          I have lately become utterly fine with who I am. I am the normal one, conform to me.

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            I think we need to culturally go back to roughly Daria as a metaphor for / example of autism.

            She can see through basically every social situation, almost always reads them with more accuracy and insight than everyone else, is analytical, witty, deadpan, detached… but still has and is capable of expressing emotions.

            Thats a high functioning autist to me, the difference to nowadays is… nobody really had a widely used (and often misused) pathologizing term for that in the 90s, and hadn’t spent 20 yrs infantalizing such people as socially stunted, so Daria had actual self confidence and wasn’t stigmatized.

            I had tons of friends growing up, they just thought I was quirky… nobody knew I was autistic till I figured it out in my 30s.

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      5 hours ago

      Only thing I would add is that the dynamics you describe serve certain psychological functions for the individual - everything from feeling less insecure to developing an identity.

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        Absolutely 100% serious.

        I’m an autist, this person strikes me as exactly the kind of extremely overconfident and impulsive asshole I would hate to be around… because I take time to think about what I say, before I say it, and they seem to hate the very idea of maybe thinking before speaking.

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    As a person with ADHD, who does this frequently, I can attest that it is more of a processing delay coupled with an autonomous communication thread than psychopathy.

    By the time my cortex processed the input, the verbal center already responded thinking there was incomplete input. I figure the problem is mostly due to ADHD.

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      Exactly the same for me. That, coupled with the fact that once I start talking, I talk slow and carefully, often pausing to think about what I’m gonna say next, leads to a lot of frustrating conversations. It’s like, if you don’t care enough to hear what I have to say, why did you ask?

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    11 hours ago

    We call it parsing. You might have heard everything but your brain wasn’t done with parsing.

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    The worst is schroedinger’s auditory buffer. (Heisenbuffer?)

    If you give me a second to parse what you said, I can reply just fine. If you ask “are you listening?” in an aggravated tone, the buffer gets discarded instantly.

    And this is completely orthogonal to whether I was trying to pay attention to your words, cuz I basically can’t process your words directly as you speak anyway.

    So I might have an easier time continuing the conversation if I’m mildly distracted instead of constantly overwriting the perfectly understandable stuff from 5 seconds ago with the white noise that I’m hearing in the immediate present.

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    That sounds an awful lot like projection the first person is doing.

    So many types of people you can insult and you choose people who think?

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    One cool reason for this is that auditory input lasts longer in your mind than visual. I don’t know if we’ve tested touch, smell, or taste, but maybe someone else has those research articles ready.

    Vision lasts for something under a second. You can test by flashing a grid of numbers, say 5x5, up on a screen for a very brief period of time, and then cue the subject to recall a specific line after a period of time. There are too many numbers to instantly memorize, too many (more than the 7 +/-2 limit we typically see) to rehearse to remember all of them, and the subject doesn’t know which line to rehearse anyway, so they can’t repeat all the numbers to ‘win.’ I remember that the time until decay was something like a second. Up to that point, a subject could repeat all the numbers in a line if cued.

    Auditory was tested in a similar manner, but I can’t quite remember the details. Maybe something like a high/medium/low voice, and then being cued? Anyway, time for decay for the sensory input was something like 4-8 seconds. Most people have probably had an experience where they were working on a task, a coworker or roommate came up and asked them what they wanted for lunch, and the reply was, “hang on a second, let me finish this,” they finish the (very brief) task, turn to the other person and say, “what did you say?” while screwing up their face in memory and then answer the question without it being repeated.

    As an interesting aside, chimpanzees have amazing visual recall from brief cues. I remember videos of them being able to memorize a sequence of 20+ squares to press on a grid after the correct sequence had been flashed up for a split second.

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      The human brain also generally responds faster, with lower latency, to audio input than it does to visual input.

      This is why actual pro gamers will prioritize a positionally accurate, low latency audio setup at least as much as, if not more than a ludicrous visual framerate that goes far beyond the human ability to perceive.

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    Tbh, is because I was probably thinking of something else and needed a second to remember what you just said.

    Usually goes something like, “Huh? Oh, blah blah”

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      I wish people would get my attention before just blurting out random gibberish and acting offended when i take a moment to go from “LoRa use cases” in my head to “whatever bullshit you read on facebook today”. people are just boring imho.

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        This is a regular argument in my house. My wife gets so upset that she has to repeat herself because i dont catch it the first time. Ive tried to tell her that she could even just start with “hey” or something to get my attention before she brings me into the conversation thats been going on in her head for 10 minutes already.