Sort of. It’s more like “I think I’m doing well socializing then I’ll find out later secondhand they think I’m a fucking idiot child and mocked me after I left.”
For the record, that experience is also universal. You could be perfectly socially adjusted and you’ll still meet fake AF people on occasion. Narcissists have a habit of fawning to your face and then doing 180s on their opinion of you the moment you’re out of their line of sight lol. Don’t worry about it.
I still want to get better at socializing and it’s so difficult when neurotypicals act polite to your face and then do that! It makes to so hard to learn!
It’s entirely fair to want to get better at it, but those people probably couldn’t help you even if they were inclined to, because they’re bad at socializing- they invited someone whose socialization style doesn’t vibe with their party, then their response is to mock the guest for their own mistake.
Not everyone is like that, and not every neurotypical is like that. It’s hard to find a good group, but one exists for you.
Also, specifically regarding learning to socialize: you don’t necessarily have to get help from neurotypicals- that’s like having a math teacher who’s just naturally good at math, vs one who had to struggle to master it. You learn better from the latter if you’re not also gifted at math.
Sort of. It’s more like “I think I’m doing well socializing then I’ll find out later secondhand they think I’m a fucking idiot child and mocked me after I left.”
And then I’m tired as hell to try again.
For the record, that experience is also universal. You could be perfectly socially adjusted and you’ll still meet fake AF people on occasion. Narcissists have a habit of fawning to your face and then doing 180s on their opinion of you the moment you’re out of their line of sight lol. Don’t worry about it.
If they mock you after you leave they suck anyway. No loss for you.
I still want to get better at socializing and it’s so difficult when neurotypicals act polite to your face and then do that! It makes to so hard to learn!
It’s entirely fair to want to get better at it, but those people probably couldn’t help you even if they were inclined to, because they’re bad at socializing- they invited someone whose socialization style doesn’t vibe with their party, then their response is to mock the guest for their own mistake.
Not everyone is like that, and not every neurotypical is like that. It’s hard to find a good group, but one exists for you.
Also, specifically regarding learning to socialize: you don’t necessarily have to get help from neurotypicals- that’s like having a math teacher who’s just naturally good at math, vs one who had to struggle to master it. You learn better from the latter if you’re not also gifted at math.
I agree it does suck. Hopefully you can find a group you can feel safe in to practice!
Well in that case these people are not worth your time.