Many years ago, I was working together with a girl my age for about 3 months and I had decided pretty early on that I didn’t want to impress her, but that I would use the time to work on smalltalk and such. It was a factory job with lots of boring tasks, so there were lots of opportunities to entertain each other.
After 2½ months, I felt like I was doing better than I’ve ever done in my life. Then she hit me with the sentence: “I don’t think any girl would want to go out with you, because you don’t talk enough.”
So, basically worst case: That’s genuinely what she thought.
‘Best’ case: She was trying to hurt me, but well, she still knew which wound to poke into, so I guess, I wasn’t doing that great either way.
Many years ago, I was working together with a girl my age for about 3 months and I had decided pretty early on that I didn’t want to impress her, but that I would use the time to work on smalltalk and such. It was a factory job with lots of boring tasks, so there were lots of opportunities to entertain each other.
After 2½ months, I felt like I was doing better than I’ve ever done in my life. Then she hit me with the sentence: “I don’t think any girl would want to go out with you, because you don’t talk enough.”
So, basically worst case: That’s genuinely what she thought.
‘Best’ case: She was trying to hurt me, but well, she still knew which wound to poke into, so I guess, I wasn’t doing that great either way.
Some people aren’t nice or good people, oh well.
I doubt the details make for a particularly riveting story, but just to say it: I do think it is more complex than her just not being a good person.
She was hitting you.