• IvyisAngy@lemmy.world
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    18 hours ago

    For some (like me) it’s less “overcome” and more “manage to the best of my ability”.

    Sometimes I will forget something important. I forget interactions with people the next fucking day. I sit and scroll for hours on my phone and scream internally to get the fuck up and just not be able to.

    Certain things help. But you can definitely be more then a leach.

    • Alaik@lemmy.zip
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      16 hours ago

      Yep, but you’re trying. No one with actual ADHD is ever going to fully overcome it. I’m referring to the people who magically have crippling ADHD when it comes to being responsible with anything (Chores, a job, etc.) But if its something they want to do they’re magically fine. They can listen to instructions and follow them keenly when their family is taking them paragliding, but they couldn’t wash a dish for 8 seconds.

      • Deconceptualist@leminal.space
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        13 hours ago

        My understanding is that this is because it’s a dopamine problem. Some (many?) ADHD folks are wired such that they only function when their brains’ reward centers are getting pinged. That’s why they struggle with chores or bills or other ‘adult’ tasks that require focus but no feeling of reward or satisfaction until much later. According to my partner it’s a source of a tremendous amount of guilt and self-esteem problems.

      • AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today
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        15 hours ago

        That’s part of ADHD for a lot of people: hyperfixation/focus on topics that interest them, and struggles otherwise.

        • rooroo@feddit.org
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          Yup. It’s something that’s crippling to us for sure, but imo doesn’t hurt to acknowledge that it makes us a total piece of work for our surroundings.

          What I take the person above to say is that there’s just too many people who expect everyone else to accept their annoying habits.

          Which, well, I don’t even accept in myself so it’d be rich to expect others to do.

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        14 hours ago

        So I guess AuADHD just doesn’t exist to you then, huh? You have no clue about proper mental health and the challenges people experience.

        Seriously, shut the fuck up.