Comparing to the dotcom bubble is what finally made it make sense in my brain. Though I know the toll it took on that sector’s workers and I don’t envy those in fields that are going to be affected the same way.

I put my keys in anything that I need to remember, and schedule myself a text for when I’m going to be looking for them so I can remember the keys are in the fridge with my lunch.

Can you explain how we’re beyond bubbles like I’m 5? Is it that there are gentler market corrections now?

I’m sorry that you’re going through it. I’ve been there myself. I hope you that you have the support you need, and you’re right- all things change eventually. Your debuff does have a countdown, you just can’t see it.

Why permanent? Couldn’t it be a temporary debuff?

That’s my dream office haha. Somewhere that no one knows exists.

Interesting architectural mystery

How?

Assholes don’t build lasting societies.

Thank you for articulating my point better!!!

It can certainly feel that way. And I do think there is no such thing as an ethical billionaire, if by favouring assholes you mean rewarding monetarily.

I argue though, that without kindness there would be no societies. Even if the parable of the Margaret Mead’s healed femur isn’t true, the fact remains that there are in fact those who help, and they are probably more plentiful than those who hurt. They’re just harder to spot, because media makes money off emotions and fear and anger are stronger than hope.

To quote Mr Rogers “look for the helpers”, because they are there. And if you’re not seeing them, maybe it’s time for a news break. Including social media, just for a week. And then see how you are feeling. I have to take breaks now and then, and I promise it helps.

May I recommend Kinnu? It’s gameified learning on a huge variety of topics. I just finished the data science pathways, but have also done logic, superpower learning, and ikigai. It’s free and I find it a super interesting way to kill about 5 minutes at a time.

And that’s completely ok if it doesn’t help you, I don’t mean to invalidate your own experience. I was using a personal anecdote to show how language can influence thought, though there are better examples- like the Australian Aboriginal tribal languages that lack words for “left” and “right” and refer to everything relative to cardinal directions. As a result, they have impeccable senses of direction.

Or another example, linguistic relativity in colours (ie. Languages without a word for a colour like pink might have trouble distinguishing pink from red).

And if reframing words wasn’t helpful for some people, there wouldn’t be Narrative Therapy centres still running.

Fair! To me it meant something that I was carrying with me, and made it feel more transient.

I will say, as someone who lived through chronic pain for years, saying I have pain, rather than saying I’m in pain feels quite distinct and… Less hopeless? You’re not incorrect, you’re just not recognizing the impact and power words can have. There are whole therapies that specialize in reshaping our narratives, despite “I am sad” and “I feel sad” essentially meaning the same thing grammatically.

Can I ask something that sounds off-topic?

Do you have hobbies outside of work? In my field there are people who really don’t. They pour all of their being into their identity of the field, and when it comes time to retire or they medically can’t work it destroys them. And usually the reason they medically can’t work is the nature of the work itself. Many of the same occupational stressors that you yourself would face as an emergency nurse.

I only ask because it sounds like the only discussions you willingly engage in are related to patient care/nursing. Caring for others without nurturing yourself is not sustainable.

I’m sorry to hear you were removed from ER. ICU is a really valuable learning space, since the most critical patients have so many body systems involved. If you wanted to grow, you can also then branch into related specialties like neuro ICU or cicu etc. I would highly, highly recommend finding something that fills your cup outside of work first, though. Then it also gives you something to talk about that you don’t find boring or tedious :)

I’m pretty sure he turned it down?

I asked my google home the same question and it told me that I told it that my dog is a good girl 3 times. I know it’s not great for privacy, but it made me chuckle.

This comment brought to you by Factor

I wasn’t trying to conflate the two things. I was providing a source on where the “farms” came from, and clarified that they were meant to help “drug addicts” (not minimizing your experience- just reinforcing that the wording is already not great from a lens of treating maladaptive substance use, in addition to being completely inappropriate for people who take prescribed medications.)

I neither agreed not disagreed, though I do find it problematic to be enrolling people who are neurodivergent into any kind of list for any reason without their expressed consent and ability to withdraw that consent at any times. If the reason is purely investigation/research as you say, then I believe that it should be under the same rigor and ethics considerations as any other research.

It’s the stillness. It’s there even when the pupils aren’t visible, although there are some changes with the eyes after death (tache noir comes to mind).