I’m on Mint. It only offered up to version 550 and veilguard needed 565, if I recall

https://forums.linuxmint.com/viewtopic.php?t=433321 was more or less my problem.

I could only find “beta” drivers that were new enough to run Veilguard, which was annoying. I had to add some other ppa thing. Not a big deal, but would scare off some users.

Yeah we finally set up a workflow where we get production data available in a staging environment. This has saved a lot of trouble via “well it worked on my local where there were 100 records, but prod has 1037492 and it does not”

You did come off as someone who reacts only on emotion, since that’s all that was visible in your previous post.

Being put off by the delivery of information is not typically a good reason to dismiss it. If someone says to you “3 is a prime number you donkey” you’re hopefully not going to reject that because they were rude. I mean, we all do that to some extent, but it’s a pretty sloppy shortcut.

This seems like obvious advice.

I mean, way back when Myspace was new (I’m old) I looked at it and thought “This is going to make me sad.” Like, if people post fun stuff without me I’m probably going to feel left out. If people post sad stuff about their life, I’m going to feel sad. If people don’t interact with me at all, I’m going to feel lonely. There’s such a narrow path forward on that kind of thing that’s a consistent, net positive.

People could keep in touch with email, or texts, or even ancient modes like phone calls and letters. Would probably be happier. The social media stuff is a black hole.

Also remember that time Facebook tried to see if they could just make people sad? And they could? And somehow no one went to jail or anything?

I switched to linux because Windows10 is going EoL, and my hardware is ineligible for Windows11. It’s been fine, once I got it set up. There wasn’t any single thing that pushed me over the edge. I just had a free weekend and I knew I had to do it eventually.

I really wanted the install to be smooth so I could tell everyone how great it was. It was not. Somehow it borked itself, and I couldn’t boot from the usb stick a 2nd time until after I manually edited a file on it. Then installer hung on the last step, and I couldn’t find any answers other than “Use the previous LTS”. At least that worked.

I always find it puzzling when adults act like “You told me to do a thing so now I don’t want to do it” or “You said a thing that’s true, but in a way that made me feel bad so I refuse to accept it”. What’s going on in there?

Related question, do you think in words or feelings? Some people have a whole inner monologue, and some people do not. Some people think in pictures, or just wordless impulses.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_Food_and_Drug_Administration provides some historical context.

You can also read The Jungle by Sinclair

Without the FDA, you’re going to get sawdust in your bread and worse.

I set my dad up with Ubuntu some years ago. He wasn’t the worst windows user, but he had some troubles.

Now he’s a big Linux fan. Updates his OS himself sometimes. He’s not extremely savvy, but he gets by enough.

Flawlessly clearing Genichiro in Sekiro was deeply satisfying. Parry parry parry, dodge, mikiri counter. Don’t think I got hit once.

Most people I’ve known who smoke are addicted. They get moody and other withdrawal symptoms. No one I know has a similar relationship with alcohol. This is not a scientific study, but that’s been my experience. I know there are alcoholics in the world.

Also nicotine and cigarettes are known to be addictive https://nida.nih.gov/publications/research-reports/tobacco-nicotine-e-cigarettes/nicotine-addictive

I’m pretty sure “stopping drinking cold turkey will kill you” is kind of hyperbolic. Most people aren’t drinking that heavily. This thread started on the point of moderate drinking.

I acknowledge that even light drinking is unsafe. I wasn’t aware it that plausibly that hazardous. Unfortunately, many things are unsafe and I don’t think alcohol is going away any time soon. Going out for a drink with friends, there’s probably a bunch of hazards there. Unhealthy foods, car exhaust, staying up late.

Does “hard drug” have an agreed upon definition?

I’m pretty sure cigarettes are worse. Much more addictive, harmful to the user and nearby people, and the cigarette butts I think are an environmental hazard.

Alcohol use is as old as human civilization. I don’t think light usage is that hazardous.

“”" And I know you’re going crazy

And I know you’re going broke

And you’re sitting here and laughing like that’s some kind of joke, but I’m not laughing

And I want you to be careful

And I want you to be smart

I don’t want you to romanticize falling the fuck apart

And I want you to remember that you’re better

And I love you and I’ll see you tomorrow “”"

One of the more powerful supportive songs I know.

https://batboymusic.bandcamp.com/track/snyder-ave

You can go out to party without doing heroin.

On the one hand, cigarettes are bad and everyone should quit. And alcohol should be used in moderation. And many drugs are very dangerous and addictive and should be avoided. So this is probably good.

On the other hand, if this means are just sitting home alone, maybe having parasocial relationships with influencers, that’s sad.

If there’s going to be fantasies about murder, can his whole posse go out?

I think this overlaps with neurotical v neurodivergent, but also “ask vs guess culture” can be a source of conflict

I don’t disagree with anything here, really. As we both said, some responsibility remains on the user.

I do think Match is aggravating the situation. Men aren’t getting traction so they search for why. They find right wing MRA stuff saying that it’s women’s fault blah blah blah, but really part of why they’re not getting hits is because Match is hiding them unless you pay (and even then maybe).

Part of why may also be they’re creeps or bad at dating. It is not wholly the apps’ fault. But I do think they’re making it harder for people to connect, and that can be the top of the funnel for far right ideas.

And I do think a lot of people are on the apps when they aren’t really ready. People of all genders. But that’s a separate topic, probably.

Anyway. Good talk. Amusingly , I’m heading out to meet someone from a dating app. Here’s hoping they don’t think I’m a creep!

There was a meme the other day about how Aragorn from lotr is the kind of male role model men need. Kind, shows his emotions, strong without being cruel.

I was thinking the other day there’s probably a pretty straight line between Match group owning so many dating apps, men’s unhappiness, and violence.

Like the apps create the illusion that you can meet someone and be happy, but their primary goal is to make money. They don’t try very hard to introduce you to good matches. They also haven’t solved the experience from the woman’s point of view. So men feel like they’re just shouting into the void, that people don’t like them, etc etc. Some of those people likely go on to become incels or do violence.

This isn’t to say that violent men are not culpable. They are. They retain agency. But Match group (that’s tinder, okcupid, hinge, match, plenty of fish, and more) is making the problem worse.

It’s like if there was a food shortage, and someone bought up all the grocery stores. Then they made all of them mazes and had half the cereal boxes empty.