I don’t like sex, I don’t have a sex drive. At the same time, I don’t feel repulsed by it either. So I’d be willing to have a schedule so that my hypothetical partner has his needs met.

  • Buffalox@lemmy.world
    15·
    4 hours ago

    For some people sex is a minor thing, what matters is emotional closeness. You can have closeness without sex.
    I think you can find someone without too much sex easily, I hear all over the place that men are actually tiring of sex just as much as many women are.
    The main difference being that women often think it’s their fault when men don’t want to have sex.

    • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
      11·
      3 hours ago

      Yeah, this would be it for me. If my partner didn’t want to have sex, fine, not a big deal. But if my partner didn’t want to sit next to me and lean on me? If my partner didn’t want to hold hands or hug me from behind while I’m cooking? If I didn’t get a sudden jump into my lap and an insistent plead for a shoulder rub?

      Those would break me. Even for the folks who don’t want to admit it, there is a driving need for intimacy, and sex just often sort of fits that need or is used to mask it.