I don’t like sex, I don’t have a sex drive. At the same time, I don’t feel repulsed by it either. So I’d be willing to have a schedule so that my hypothetical partner has his needs met.
I don’t like sex, I don’t have a sex drive. At the same time, I don’t feel repulsed by it either. So I’d be willing to have a schedule so that my hypothetical partner has his needs met.
My wife is on the ace spectrum. She enjoys sex, but only experiences reactive sexual desire (i.e. she’ll get in the mood once sex is basically already happening). Effectively she does not experience sexual desire in the way people typically mean that.
That’s been a struggle for us. We don’t do scheduled sex, but it’s something we’ve considered. Even though we have very good (if infrequent) sex, the frequency isn’t the thing that’s hard for me to deal with. The hardest thing is not feeling desired in ways I am used to in relationships. That has made me feel insecure and just overall is not great. But it’s something we’ve had to work through.
So all that goes to say: yes, if you find the right person you’ll be able to make it work. The key, in my opinion, is talking about it and being very clear about how you’re wired and that it isn’t anything wrong with them.