A politician with a proven track record of actually cleaning shit up?

They’ve got my vote.

Bruh, it sounds like you and OP are both on the same side. Like the point of this post is to kind of -nudge nudge- that “disobedient” thought that’s teetering on the edge of realization, without making a direct call for action. You call for it one way, they call for it another way, but both of you seem to be attempting to conjure the same idea.

Why in the world waste time complaining that your teammate isn’t using the same tactics as you? We have to stop letting arbitrary shit divide us. If we all have the same goal, we should be aiming toward it together.

It’s like needing to know the password before being let into the treehouse.

(I want to preface this by saying that I agree with you and am not attempting an argument - I just got on a tangent at one point. Any emotion conveyed in this post isn’t due to/directed toward you or your post, but is a function of how reflecting on the subjects at hand makes me feel.)

As a kid, I wanted to argue even more with authority figures who lacked a clear reason for having authority. An expert on a matter? That makes sense, I’d listen to them. A teacher that actually guides students and respects them? That also makes sense.

But somebody “in charge,” making decisions that seem completely arbitrary or straight-up nonsensical? That didn’t listen or care what others thought, and who demanded respect without ever returning it? We had a mutual hate for each other. The fact they were given authority pissed me off and I saw zero reason to comply with anything they demanded.

… I didn’t get along with most of my school administrators.

Most people shy away from conflict, from what I’ve seen. My fire has been dampened so many times from all different sides and now I’m a tired, 30-something-year-old that wishes she could be as fired-up as she used to be. Because now, we have fascists taking over (or attempting to) all around the world. People here on Lemmy keep insulting Americans for not “fighting back” enough, but they have no idea how bad the compliance conditioning is here.

I refuse to teach blind obedience. I’d rather see kids that question everything and get in trouble for it than ones that will just accept whatever authority tells them. It’s not the kids’ fault the world doesn’t make sense, but teaching them to just accept it as “the way it is” (as the adults in my life always said) does nothing but perpetuate this cycle.

We need more skeptics. We need more action-takers. Those that believe they just “deserve” to have authority need to be challenged, now more than ever (I picked this username for a reason.) To be clear - I say this as an autistic teacher of autistic kids. I understand the risks from both sides, and I know raising autistic kids isn’t easy. But the world doesn’t need more people who give up the good fight just because it’s hard; the world needs more people who point out hypocrisy and injustice, including children who will blithely point out that the emperor has no clothes.

It was weird sometimes. Say you uploaded an image as a visual aid to a point being made on Reddit. It would make no sense without context, but you put it on Imgur because that’s what Imgur was made for. Shared on Reddit, the image successfully aided whatever you were trying to communicate. Mission accomplished!

But later you’d look back at the Imgur link, and find a bunch of annoyed Imgur-users complaining that your post made no sense.

I left Imgur when I left Reddit, since the only thing I ever used it for was hosting things to post on Reddit. Funny, I must have gotten spoiled to Lemmy instances self-hosting images, because I forgot Imgur even existed until I saw this post today.

Thank you for speaking up. I’m going to share a bit of my experience (unrelated to you, OP.)

I suspect (from my experience dating men) that the desensitivity issue is more common than most people will admit. Few men want to admit that their dick doesn’t work properly, and a subset of those men will attempt to frame this problem as a benefit instead (“I can keep going for so long without cumming, it’s my super power!”) I don’t expect most men will talk with each other like this, but it’s one of the justifications such men tell their partners.

From the partner’s perspective, I hate to have to say this, but… no, it’s not a power. It’s a weakness. A desensitized dick turns sex into a frustrating act that only ends when I get physically sore. If he doesn’t have that “natural stopping point” that usually signals an end to penetration, and the act still feels good to him - he doesn’t want to stop, so why would he? But it’s a very different experience from the “receiving” partner’s perspective. Most people who “receive” in sex don’t want to keep going until they end up in pain. We don’t want to always be the buzz-kill whose role is to decide, “Okay, sex time is over!” I want to have fun, too; not be the playground monitor that has to announce when recess is finished. Going on and on is a porn fantasy, and just like many porn fantasies, it’s not that fun in real life.

The issue of porn-induced desensitivity is absolutely real. However, taking away people’s privacy online is not the solution. These laws are absolutely absurd and a terrifying glimpse of the future the fascists in power are aiming toward. (And for anyone overly-concerned about my sex life that feels the need to chime in with advice - I learned from the lessons of my past, and I share those lessons in hopes that others can learn from it too.)

I’m gonna need more information about this “hoop.” Do you have any pictures or drawings that can show the size of it? Was it like a giant hula hoop and everyone “spun” inside it while standing? Or was it more like a hamster wheel and kids smooshed along the edge as it rolled? I have no idea what I’m supposed to imagine here.

The key is timing. If you time your anxiety for when you’re supposed to be asleep, you get to be too anxious to sleep and be unable to do the thing that alleviates said-anxiety! (Like completing a work task, or running a noisy appliance like a vacuum cleaner or washing machine, or making a phone call that can only be made between certain hours, etc.)

Then when morning arrives, and you’re finally in a position to do the thing that was bothering you all night, you’ll either be too exhausted to start the task, or be so mentally-overwhelmed that you completely forget the thing even exists.

Until the next night, that is. Then the cycle repeats.

Who knew a Skeletor meme could provide such deep wisdom.

Everyone knows different things. How we handle those differences tells a lot about us. Some folks see these moments as an opportunity to share knowledge and enlighten others.

Others see an opportunity to boost their own ego, while withholding the information they have that would help others make better choices.

Calling people names and laughing at them for not knowing/doing a thing you know/do? That’s some childish, non-constructive, Reddit-style bullshit.

Leave that garbage outside, it doesn’t belong in here.

People with high functioning autism could use the record to handle social confusion. Often they’ll have difficulty in social situations without understanding what went wrong, so their memory of the encounter will be incomplete/unreliable. Having an objective record could let a trusted third party help them learn/understand what happened.

As one of those people, I have to be clear: this is not how things would shake out. The vast majority of the time, the misunderstanding comes from tone, not from the words used. Providing a transcript showing that one’s words are inoffensive has done little to improve the situations where I’ve been able to provide them - NTs often double-down that their emotional interpretation of your tone still matters more than the specific words you chose.

Just looking at the wall behind the counter in 7-11 boggles my mind. Dozens of cigarette and dip brands (and now vape and nicotine pouches too), with most smokers having a preferred brand and style - they don’t buy anything except the one type they like. Which means the demand must be high enough for each of those products to justify keeping them fully stocked all the time. Then consider that every corner gas station and convenience store has the same set up, even if they’re all within walking distance from each other.

That’s a lot of tobacco/nicotine users.

Monday/Friday/Doomsday?

Reaffirming sentence indicating that you make a strong argument and you are not wrong. Followed by subtle encouragement for you to double-check parent comments before posting, worded very carefully in an attempt to not sound like a dick about it, but that’s bound to get misinterpreted by someone regardless of how much effort I put into making it sound neutral.

in America that is a very big deal you would have been shook.

I’m curious what this means. I’m in my mid-30s, grew up in the US, and have never had a garbage disposal either. My childhood home had a garden and a compost pile, so that’s where food waste always went. Then I moved into apartment life. The only time I ever saw a garbage disposal was when my ex’s mom insisted that we had one in our apartment (which was a condo my ex was renting from her.) She said, “It’s under the sink!”

Yeah. It was under the sink: still in a box, uninstalled. Even after she learned that, she still didn’t bother having someone install it. That was the only time in my life where there was (technically) a garbage disposal in the place I lived.

This is why my manager made printed sheets of the tasks we have to do at the end of the day. There’s an intense transition at the end of my work day (I work with kids, and after they go home, we have to shift gears to do paperwork before we can leave.) When I started, I had trouble remembering and keeping track of all the different things we have to do at that point. So I asked my manager to write them down. She did one better. She made a list, printed several copies, and passed them out to all the new hires.

Those tasks have become part of my routine, so I don’t need the list anymore. But I keep it in my locker so I can double-check when I go to leave but have the feeling of, “Did I forget to do something?”

That’s true. I don’t disagree with you, I just think we’re reading this post differently.

Companies lie about their reasons all the time, especially when they claim they’re doing something for the environment. I interpreted this post as another example pointing out their hypocrisy, not as “this is the one and only thing companies lie about.”

Upvoted for the Vexillology reference.

But yeah, OP, just enjoy the show. Most of the attendants are going to be way too focused on the show, their friends, and themselves to care that some rando isn’t bopping along with them.

For me, it’s both your points as well as a matter of current distractions. The real test would be if I could read/write something like this while somebody in the room has an unrelated conversation. Will it still hold my attention without the spoken words around me distracting me? Sadly, I have my doubts.