I don’t like sex, I don’t have a sex drive. At the same time, I don’t feel repulsed by it either. So I’d be willing to have a schedule so that my hypothetical partner has his needs met.

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    Not all men are the same, so there is no one answer to this.
    It definitely wouldn’t be a deal-breaker for me. I’m in a similar situation with my wife and we have a very happy marriage.
    One condition for me personally is that I’m free to “take care of myself” without her having issues with that, or interrogating me about who I think of when I do it.
    Whether you’re OK with your partner watching porn is another subject you’ll have to discuss with him.
    So basically, the golden rule of relationships applies: Everything is allowed as long as everyone involved consents willingly.

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      It’s just like Rush Limbaugh said: if there is consent on [all sides], it’s perfectly fine, whatever it is.

      There’s no real need for me to bring up the dead conservative talking head here, but I still laugh to myself sometimes when I remember how mockingly he got it exactly right, and maybe someone else could use a laugh too.

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          I think he’s trying to say there should be more taboo. That there should be a lot more restrictions than just consent.

          I’m glad he’s dead.

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      No need to reply if this is too personal. When you say “similar situation”, you mean your wife is ace? I dont know much about this so Im curious why else a spouse might not want sex at all.

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        I don’t know what the terminology is exactly.
        She enjoys sex, but she doesn’t really have a sex drive. For her it’s a completely optional fun activity, not a need.
        But we cuddle and kiss a lot.